Earlier this week, we gave a report of a Nigerian Feminist and facebook celebrity who recently got married and boasted that no Bride Price was Paid on her head.
This had triggered so many reactions, most of which had attckwd her, telling her the consequences of her actions as according to them, ones no Bride bride is paid on your head, then you are not yet married.
In a recent post, Nkechi Bianze, the trending Bride without a Bride Price had explained thus:
I’m from Akumazi-Umuocha of Ika North-East LGA of Delta State. That’s my village.
A year before my Dad died, I told him that I want no bride price paid on me. It was an agreement I had with my father. And my Dad agreed. But he died before I got married.
When I was dating, I’d tell any man that came my way that I don’t want bride price on me. I’d tell him this within the first 2 weeks of meeting him. If you don’t like it, you can go. Nor be by force to marry. Two must agree and make compromises for them to be together.
In my village, the largest part (about 40%) of the bride price is paid TO THE BRIDE!
The second largest part is paid to the mother of the bride.
The third largest part is paid to the father of the bride.
The fourth largest part is paid to the siblings of the bride.
Then a fifth and smalles part to the father of the bride’s family.
I actually didn’t know about this before my Traditional wedding. It was during preparations that my mum told me that that’s the way it’s done.
It was ABSOLUTELY EASY for me to say I wouldn’t accept mine.
My younger brother who is the person who represented my late Dad; it was easy for me to tell him I don’t want him to accept it.
It was also very easy for me to tell my Mum not to accept her part.
My other siblings didn’t expect anything. They live in the UK and N7K (N3,500 each) will do close to NOTHING for them.
I only had to make a move for the 5th part.
In my village, bride price is discussed between the groom’s family and the bride’s immediate family. That’s why it’s very easy for families to waive it. My tradition is NOT your tradition except we are from same village and quarters.
A LOT of Ika people are waiving it of recent. They don’t just come on social media to say it the way I’m screaming mine.
I’m screaming mine because I want other young women to know that it VERY POSSIBLE to call the shots in their marriages and decide how they want to get married.
I mentioned the name of my village in the first paragraph of this post. Go and do your research if you are in doubt. My information is recent because I did mine just 3 days ago.
I’m originally an IKA woman. My origin is Ika.
I’m now Igbo (Mbaise) by marriage.
My traditional marriage was done according to the customs and traditions of my quarters in Akumazi-Umuocha of IKA land. The rites are prescribed by my kinsmen.
Traditional marriage is done according to the traditions of the woman’s village. So, spare me that crap about what your traditions say. I’m not from your village!
It was easy for us to edit bits to suit us because when it comes to traditions, Ika people are relatively very progressive.
The Obi of my village and the custodian of the culture and traditions of my village was present in my traditional marriage. So, abeg, who you be? Nah you know my traditions pass am?
Take a seat somewhere and stop getting yourself worked-up. I don marry be say I don marry. NOTHING you fit do!
I married my spec in all ramifications. I know it’s paining you that I had my way despite all your evil wishes, but gather the courage to get a grip of yourselves. Make you nor go kpeme for nothing o.
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