SAFE S3X OR ONE SAFE PARTNER: WHY THE NUMBERS MAYBE WRONG- Emeka Ezekwe
Safe s3x or abstinence from s3x is always a topic for heated conversations whenever issues of morality is discussed in Africa. Medically speaking too, focusing on only one s3xual partner saves lives and prevent avoidable visits to the doctor for STIs, unwanted pregnancies,et al especially when “protections” are not used, the question is how “ safe” is s3x even when only one “partner “ is involved?
Well, according to Lloyd’s pharmacy developed online “sex degree of separation calculator “,even if you have had just one s3x partner and your partner has multiple partners, you’re indirectly connected sexually to all his/her partners,it’s is called sex degrees of separation, a sexed up adaptation and conceptualization of six degrees of separation.The numbers are shocking o😳. The Lloyd calculator helps you to find out how many indirect sexual partners you’ve had by calculating with the number of your direct partners. Calculating the number of indirect sexual partners you have had is as easy as entering your gender, age, and the number of direct s3xual partners you’ve had .
According to Lloyds, “we’ve calculated how many people your partners are likely to have slept with before they slept with you.Then we calculated your partner’s partners ,and their partners and so on-for just six degrees.It’s shocking how the numbers grow .For instance,the calculator “computes” that if the average number of people you have slept with is nine,you may have actually had a total of 3,919,918 indirect sexual connections.What this implies is that if the person you’ve slept with did not just sleep with you alone ,then,you’re not “sleeping “ with who you think you’re “sleeping “ with only,but,indirectly connected sexually to all his/her partners .
The Lloyd’s model is not actually meant to scare us because of its humongous numbers (even if you had only one sexual partner between age 20-24 years old, you would have been indirectly connected to 270,660 people sexually 😳,so,it should be more about how safe you’re than how many people you’ve slept with )or discourage sexual activities or even to promote morality,but rather to remind us all about the importance of safe s3x and regular testing.The issue here is more about safety than it is about trusting your partner. Lloyds opines that “even if you use condoms you’re still exposed to several types of STI, including genital warts and herpes which can also be transferred through skin to skin contact,oral sex,and even sex toys,but also to get regularly tested for STIs”
However ,Lloyd’s calculator,like most robotic inspired exercises has some identifiable flaws ,cos,it’s devoid of human feelings towards sex,it failed to focus or say anything about emotional connections to sex or how we feel about sex,making all the numbers irrelevant,people have sex to feel good,to be happy,to fill emotional and physical vacuums🤣🤣being sexually active does not fully tell who you are as a human being; yes o, my opinion 😳
Ironically,and happily too most youngsters,aka,Umu aka highway 🤣🤣ndi millennial who do no care so much about all these robotics inspired numbers, primordial, religious and atavistic beliefs about sex generally are taking the front seat with a more open mindedness and positivity towards the issue of sex .The millennial generation appear to be thinking more about all the good things of life that should be enjoyed,including sex 🤣🤣global issues and problems at the moment may be many,but,is sex one of them ?😳